The Gospel vs. Self-Improvement

       
        "It's a beautiful day! Today I start my new workout routine. I'll get up at 6am before the kids wake up and - oh, it's already 6:30am. Well, that's okay. I still have time to read my Bible for 20 minutes. Nope, that's the baby crying. Okay...I know! While I feed the baby I will begin my "One Month of Pinterest Meals" menu plan.
A new recipe every day for a whole month. Wow. Suddenly that sounds rather horrifying. Maybe I'll start that tomorrow. After all, today is "A is for Apple" day and I'm supposed to make every activity revolve around the letter "A" for the little ones. Gotta get those kids reading by age 3. So the kids and I will dress up like alligators and eat apples. That...doesn't even make sense. But it's on my list. We WILL do it. I have to make those cupcakes for that thing. No, better make it cake-pops. Much more impressive. That will make up for last time when I brought store-bought cookies. But I won't eat any. It's no carbs or processed sugar for me anymore. Not since...10pm last night. But this time I'll stick with it because the kids will do it, too. Organic plain yogurt all around, baby. That is...if I remembered to buy some during my once-a-month shopping trip last week. Wait - yogurt doesn't start with "A." This day is crumbling before my eyes. But I HAVE to do better than yesterday. I will, I will, I WILL."

        If we're not careful the foundation of our motherhood can quickly become one big self-improvement plan. If you're a mom you take your job very seriously - as you should! But while all these activities might be good things, we have to remember they have nothing to do with the gospel. 

        Why bother making that distinction? Because moms have a tendency to make these issues into spiritual issues. We make judgments on ourselves (and others) based on how well we accomplish the tasks mentioned above. Since when did our identity ever depend on the quality of our cake-pops? When we place so much importance on how we perform each day that our very joy depends on it, we've crossed the line into making it a spiritual issue.  

        At the very core of our self-expectations and criticisms is what many theologians have identified as the biggest threat to the gospel itself: Legalism. Briefly defined legalism is seeking righteousness, approval, and acceptance from God based on works. 

        “I'm not trying to work my way to heaven by being a good mom!” you might scoff. 

        But how about working for peace? 

        Working for God's love and acceptance? 

        Working for an emotional sense of security? 

        Christ bought all of those things for His children. In Christ they are yours - right now. In fact, grace and peace are yours to the fullest measure in Christ (1 Peter 1:2).

        So why do we constantly slip back into legalism? 

        Martin Lloyd-Jones said, “Most of your unhappiness in life is due to the fact that you are listening to yourself instead of talking to yourself.”¹ When legalism whispers in your ear that you didn't measure up today, remind yourself of the One who measured up in your place. Saturate your mind with the glorious truths of the gospel. Here's a great conversation to have with yourself:

        "Lord, I blew it...again. But even though I just sinned against my loved ones, Jesus never did. My mood changes constantly, but Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever, and so is my righteousness before God (Hebrews 13:8). I can move forward with my day in peace - not peace bought with points from my self-improvement plan, but the peace bought for me with the blood of Jesus. I can tackle this day because I not only have His power, but I have His perfect life."

        To the world (and unfortunately to Christians at times) the gospel seems too simple. It needs help. It needs some pizzazz. So we pour all of our energy into life improvements: a better marriage, well-behaved kids, a more organized house, a better physique. We get so distracted by results (or lack of results) that we don't realize we've stepped away from the root source of our strength - Christ Himself. Paul recognized that nothing needed to be added to the gospel. In 1 Corinthians 2:2 he said, “For I determined to know nothing among you but Jesus Christ, and Him crucified.” Put the gospel first and let everything else flow out of it.  

        What does it mean to put the gospel first? Sinclair Ferguson said that saturating our minds with the gospel means to “expend our energies admiring, exploring, expositing, and extolling Jesus Christ.”² Jesus isn't just our model for obedience, He is the fulfillment of our obedience. He succeeded where we fail. If you trust Christ as your Savior, study His righteous life - it's yours! Ponder His beautiful relationship with the Father - it's yours! 

        "Are you saying we shouldn't try to do our best as moms? We shouldn't aim for high standards?" No. A true understanding of the gospel doesn't get us off the hook for obedience. It fuels it. Remember, we love because He first loved us (1 John 4:19). 

        Put Christ first. And then...do whatever the heck you want with your mommy list. Run for five miles a day, make a three course dinner every night with produce from your own garden - or don't! All to the glory of God, who is already pleased with you because of Christ. 

        Grace is at the heart of our motivation to obey. When you fall into bed at night desperately wanting a do-over of the whole day, stop and ask yourself why you are in despair. Is it because you failed to live up to your standards? Sorry - there is no solution for that. Or is it because you sinned against your loving heavenly Father? There is a solution for that. There is forgiveness at the cross. His mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23). 

        Legalism motivates through guilt. The gospel motivates through love. We see how much we have been forgiven and the freedom fills our hearts with fresh motivation to obey. Charles Spurgeon said, "Here's pardon for transgressions past, it matters not how black their cast; And, O my soul, with wonder view - for sins to come, here's pardon too!"³ We are no longer obeying for acceptance, but because of acceptance.

        What about you? What are some of the #1 things you think moms put on their "self-improvement" plans? Do you see any non-spiritual issues we have turned into spiritual issues? 

1
Lloyd-Jones, Martin David. Spiritual Depression: Its Causes and Cure. Eerdmans Pub Co. 

2
Mahaney, CJ. The Cross-Centered Life: Keeping the Gospel the Main Thing. Random House LLC. 2009.

3
Spurgeon, Charles H. Sermons Delivered in Exeter Hall, Strand. London, 1855.